How To Make A Long Distance Relationship Work

 

Its hard enough to make local relationships work, but having miles, States, and sometimes even an ocean between you makes it even more difficult. Inspite of all odds, successful long distance relationships can and do exist. Here are a few steps you can follow for making a long distance relationship work.

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    * E-mail is great so make sure you use it, especially if long-distance phone calls put a strain on your budget.

    * Ask the important questions at the onset, to make sure you are both clear on the parameters of the relationship. These can be difficult and awkward questions to ask, but will save you great heartache and misunderstanding down the line.
     
    * Communicate in some way every day, more than once if possible. Since you won't be seeing each other, it's important to establish and maintain an emotional connection. Communication is a very important criterion for any relationship.

    * E-mail is great so make sure you use it, especially if long-distance phone calls put a strain on your budget.

    * Tell each other about your little triumphs and tragedies. Ask for advice. Use an instant messenger program or chat, or web cams for that visual connection, but while instant messaging and e-mails play a large role in long distance relationships, remember that they can in no way replace verbal communication.

    * Take advantage of the benefits of a long distance relationship .You have more time for yourself. Both of you will not push each other too often this way you avoid arguments. As both of you cannot talk to each other all the time you have the importance of the relationship.  

    * Pursue common interests, even if it means pursuing them apart. If there's a movie you're both interested in seeing, watch it individually and then call each other afterward and talk about it. Read a certain book at the same time.

    * Make it a point to think of each other when your watch goes off, and revel in the fact that he or she is thinking about you, too. Find creative ways to bond.

    * Talk about your future together. Assuming that ultimately you'd want to live together, discussing how you're going to get to that point will help you prove to each other that the relationship is going somewhere and that your efforts and frustrations are not in vain.

    * Avoid the temptation to be controlling & dominating. Every individual has the right to live life the way they want to.

    * Know when to say good-bye. While this is tough in any relationship, this can be especially hard over long distances. When communication becomes one-sided or sparse for too long and for no apparent reason, when arguments become too frequent, when the whole thing just seems like more trouble than it's worth, it's time to re-evaluate the relationship. Either you'll decide to go your separate ways, or you'll get closer for having overcome another obstacle to your happiness together.

Remember things will get better with time, and even the relationship will become better. Have hope. As long as you are both interested in being in the relationship, you will stick with it and distance will not make a difference.