Solving the sudoku of Love- A LOVE QUESTION asked by our reader

Question: Hello, my girlfriend has problem with me these days.. she doesnt talk to me and avoids me. she got admission into post graduate degree..now she cuts my phone and dont even come on weekends for dinner.we use to have once a week dinner. i am afrad he has got another boyfreind. what to do?Pls dont use my name - Suspecting Boyfriend

Tanisha Says: Dear Suspecting boyfriend, Nowadays you seem to feel insecure with her admission into post graduate degree. From your tone of asking the question, it is clearly seen that you are suspecting your girlfriend. Maybe,she is unable to fine quality time with you which she used to earlier. She maybe in her lectures when you must be calling. Try to understand her situation as well. As post graduate degree requires constant effort,that may have left her with no time even on weekends to spend many hours with you as the research, dissertation etc must be taking all her time. Its not necessary that she hates you and she doesn't want you in her life. Try to understand her and be with her most of  the time. Try to drop her to her college and spend few but quality time in small small moments. Hope this would help solve your problem. Cheers and Have a lovely life.

Pranay Says:My dear friend, first of all, stop thinking negative. Have a positive and calm approach towards this situation. If you think, she is going around with some other boy, then one thing can be done. Try to contact her close friends in her college and tell them about her updates in her college. Her activities and all. Try to ask them clearly what is cooking! If you are satisfied with your observation, then carry on the relationship ahead and don't think much of negativity in your relationship. Then you must not suspect her. Try to find out the reason why she cuts down your phone. Does she call back? If yes, then she might be busy then,if no, i already suggested you an idea! Anyways, first quench your ego and ask her directly, firmly! And also try to ask her friends about her activities. Maybe you will get to know real about her!I hope all is fine! and dont worry, she will be back with you soon. Let her complete her studies and soon you will be a couple. Cheers!

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Apologizing to Your Girlfriend Isn't Easy - Here Are 5 Ways That Work

Go get your girlfriend back with following tips

If you'd like to get your relationship back on an even keel, you're going to have to apologize to her, regardless of why she's upset. Keep in mind, though, that your apology can repair your relationship or destroy it altogether. Following these five steps should help you keep your relationship together and make it grow.

Step 1: If it really is your fault, man up and take responsibility.

Admitting that you're wrong isn't easy. Your only reasonable first step in making amends is to admit your mistake, if in fact you made one. What kind of a man makes excuses when he's at fault? Stand up and take responsibility! You've got to tell her what it was you did wrong, and then - and this is essential - you must promise never to do it again. Apologizing isn't complete if you don't take responsibility for what you did wrong.

Step 2: Don't make her reaction be the heart of another argument.

Forgive and forget is great advice, but don't expect your girlfriend to follow it as soon as you apologize. Some girls are quicker to forgive and move on than others, and your mistake also will influence how long it takes. When a guy mans up and apologizes for something he does wrong, though, most girls worth keeping will appreciate it. Accepting the consequences - whatever she decides to do while she cools off - is another sign of a mature man. She'll see it as a display of sincerity and willingness to accept responsibility for what you've done. This is a critical element of the apology.

Step 3: Calm down and cool off!

Pain and resentment in relationships often comes from the things we blurt out without thinking. If you're in a circumstance where something like this might happen, try to take a time-out to think things through and calm down. Anger gets all sorts of hormones and chemicals flowing in your body, and one thing that happens is that you do and say things impetuously. You've got to let tempers cool - take a walk to let things cool off. It won't help either of you if either is thinking irrationally.

Step 4: Do something to remind her you love her.

Do something for her that reflects that you put time and thought into it - prepare her favorite dinner,tune into her favorite songs or write her a poem from your heart. Whatever you do, it should be oriented to her, and you should take care of all the preparations yourself. Flowers and chocolates are traditional apology-related gifts, but don't let them take the place of a special gesture. The gesture you make must be from the bottom of your heart, though. Making such gestures and making her feel special are excellent ways to display your remorse and your desire to restore your relationship and build it. All things considered, failure to make her feel good after you apologize will diminish the value and meaning of the apology.

Step 5: Put it behind you.

The final step of the apology process is to let the issue die as you look forward to a nice future together. What good will it do to remind each other of past mistakes? Past mistakes don't contribute to today's relationship - let them go. Living for the day and building a future is difficult enough without constantly dragging up and rehashing issues from the past. You have to be concentrating on enjoying together the life you have now, no the mistakes of the past.

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You are that Guy !

You are the boy who spent your school fees on Rs.500 worth of chicken wings thereupon getting a spanking from your mother.
You are the boy who grew up to play games every week with fellow boys.
You are the boy who got a Laptop as an engagement present.
You are the boy who would eat like a boy if you lived alone, living on potato chips and Pepsi.
You are the boy who would like it very much if he didn't have to grow up.
But you are a boy who is also a guy.
You are that guy that she met at the pre-departure talk, who insulted her baby blue mobile phone in an attempt to get her phone number.
You are the guy that commented on how she stood like a dancer with her feet turned flat out.
You are that guy that apparently dedicated music to her over the radio and staked out the uni just hoping you catched a glimpse of her.
You are the guy that got lucky when you bumped into her at the traffic just outside uni on the first day of school.
You are the guy that repeated her phone number all the way home just in case you forgot it and missed the chance again.
You are the guy that she out ate on your first date.
You are the guy that had to bear all the crap when she couldn't decide who she liked better, you or some other guy back home.
You are the guy that won her heart by buying her gummi bears and walking her home from ballet in the cold.
You are the guy that she impressed by eating through half a bucket of fried chicken and then sat back and asked what's for desert.
You are the guy that had to be taught what relationships were and in turn taught her how to work hard in a relationship.
You are the guy that put your thesis on the back burner while she wigged out about her own thesis through the year.
You are the guy who proposed to her on the plane back to Melbourne and made her dizzy.
You are the guy that wanted to wear Bata shoes to the wedding and refused to be put into ill-fitting Kenneth Coles.
You are the one who got up there during your wedding and sang to your bride.
You are the guy that endured the pillows hurled at you in her sleep.
You are the guy who will go out there and look for yak's milk from Yemen if she ever demanded it.
You are the guy that buys her flowers and burns her cds just to make her smile.
You are the guy that believes, trusts and prays even when she has given up hope.
You are the guy of her dreams and her greatest fear is to live without you.
Who are you? You are that guy and I am that girl.

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Five Ways to Improve Any Relationship !!

Five Ways to Improve Any Relationship !!

* Acknowledge the big and the little things.
People want to be seen. They want their actions, attitudes, feelings and aspirations to be noticed and acknowledged. Become a person who notices.

* Give thanks and appreciation.
Thank others and they are more likely to do more of the same. Why? Because being thanked feels good. Tell them you appreciate it too.

* Give 'just because' appreciation for who they are.
Make a list of what you admire about your partner or another person. Now share that list with them. You don't have to wait for a special occasion. Surprise that special person any time.

* Take active interest.
Take a real interest in the things important to others. Listen to them and have a conversation about their hobbies, career or interests. Learn something new about the topic. It will make them feel understood and important.

* Do special things just for them.
Find out what others like. Is it cards, flowers, a foot rub, a dinner out? You may not like or want these same things and that's ok. Do something or give something they like. Make them feel special.

See how many of these you can practice in one week with special people in your life and watch the intimacy in your relationships grow. Happy loving !!

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10 Steps to increase the bonding between Parents and Children

Recently we celebrated Mother's and Father's Day.Just like with any relationship, building a positive relationship between parent and child is one that requires work and effort to make it strong and successful. Parenting is a tough job, and maintaining close relationships and open communications helps to ensure parents and their children stay connected through all ages of their upbringing. Here are 10 simple tips for enhancing the bond between parent and child.

1. Say I Love You
Tell your child you love him every day -- no matter his age. Even on trying days or after a parent-child disagreement, when you don't exactly "like your child" at that moment, it is more important than ever to express your love. A simple "I love you" goes a long way toward developing and then strengthening a relationship.

2. Teach Your Faith
Teach your child about your faith and beliefs. Tell him what you believe and why. Allow time for your child to ask questions and answer them honestly. Reinforce those teachings often.

3. Establish A Special Name Or Code Word
Create a special name for your child that is positive and special or a secret code word that you can use between each other. Use the name as a simple reinforcement of your love. The code word can be established to have special meaning between your child and you that only you two understand. This code word can even be used to extract a child from an uncomfortable situation (such as a sleepover that is not going well) without causing undue embarrassment to the child.

4. Develop And Maintain A Special Bedtime Ritual
For younger children, reading a favorite bedtime book or telling stories is a ritual that will be remembered most likely throughout their life. Older children should not be neglected either. Once children start reading, have them read a page, chapter, or short book to you. Even most teenagers still enjoy the ritual of being told goodnight in a special way by a parent--even if they don't act like it! 

\5. Let Your Children Help You
Parents sometimes inadvertently miss out on opportunities to forge closer relationships by not allowing their child to help them with various tasks and chores. Unloading groceries after going to the store is a good example of something that children of most ages can and should assist with. Choosing which shoes look better with your dress lets a child know you value her opinion. Of course, if you ask, be prepared to accept and live with the choice made!

6. Play With Your Children
The key is to really play with your children. Play with dolls, ball, make believe, checkers, sing songs, or whatever is fun and interesting. It doesn't matter what you play, just enjoy each other! Let kids see your silly side. Older kids enjoy cards, chess, computer games, while younger ones will have fun playing about anything...as long as it involves you!

7. Eat Meals As A Family
You've heard this before, and it really is important! Eating together sets the stage for conversation and sharing. Turn the TV off, and don't rush through a meal. When schedules permit, really talk and enjoy one another. It can become a quality time most remembered by young and old alike.

8. Seek Out One-On-One Opportunities Often
Some parents have special nights or "standing dates" with their children to create that one-on-one opportunity. Whether it is a walk around the neighborhood, a special trip to a playground, or just a movie night with just the two of you, it is important to celebrate each child individually. Although it is more of a challenge the more children in a family, it is really achievable! Think creatively and the opportunities created will be ones that you remember in the future.

9. Respect Their Choices
You don't have to like their mismatched shirt and shorts or love how a child has placed pictures in his room. However, it is important to respect those choices. Children reach out for independence at a young age, and parents can help to foster those decision-making skills by being supportive and even looking the other way on occasion. After all, it really is okay if a child goes to daycare with a striped green shirt and pink shorts.

10. Make Them A Priority In Your Life
Your children need to know that you believe they are a priority in your life. Children can observe excessive stress and notice when they feel you are not paying them attention. Sometimes, part of being a parent is not worrying about the small stuff and enjoying your children. They grow up so fast, and every day is special. Take advantage of your precious time together while you have it!

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The first song She sang for me...

Listen to this song:

	Phool Tumhe Bheja -

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I Love you....She sang this song for me exactly a year ago..:) :) :) :)I will always remember that for my life :)
I love you tanisha :)

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Keeping Faith in your Partner

Dear Lovers, Most of the love stories start from the college life! Generally, the expenses in the college life shoot high with daily transportation, mobile bills, treats, get together, movies etc. But no one at this age have ever thought about earning by themselves.In India,One starts earning only after his/her education gets over.Another influential matter is being in a Relationship. Here, i will be talking about Mature relationships, for whom, those involved,wants to get married. The boyfriend/Girlfriend has NO IDENTITY of their own! Being in relationship is tough.How can you know he/she will do good to their family in future. Here i list down some questions which haunts Girls:

• Will he be able to handle our family after marriage as a leader? 
• Will he be able to earn enough to have a good and happy Family life with me?
• Will he be able to fight all the circumstances and protect our family from all odds?
• Will he make our family name proud by succeeding in his career?

Dear Girls, HAVE FAITH in your partner. Try to test his skills-Leadership,protection,earning by trying some or other tricks. Does he get frustrated/irritated if you ask him to lead from the front? hmm.. You will get the answers by the way he behaves on regular basis. Mark him and link his activities to above questions. You will be able to get the answer. If the answer is YES, then have Faith and wait until he reaches that stage. Give confidence to your parents that he will surely give his best try and will be something one day :-)

And for boys, some questions that haunts them:

• Will she be able to run our family very nicely?
• Will she equally respect my parents?
• Will she help me in keeping the budget and finances of our family going smooth?
• Will she be able to become a Next gen lady, a role model of our kids?

You want your wife different from others! If you can believe and support her, she will be the lady of your dreams! Next-Gen guys want their wives to be independent, different from others! Have faith in your girl and one day she will be according to your expectations. Make your parents believe that she isn't girl who wants to divide family but wants to keep it united. In general, RESPECT YOUR PARTNER AND HIS/HER PARENTS and Keep faith in them.And see how you win your partner..

God Bless

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